Making the Most of InterruptionsInterruptions is probably the most hated word in communications arena.
Who would wants to be interrupted when they are talking? The answer is almost no one. But still you will find so many people interrupting others all the time.
It is very easy for anyone to slip into the habit of interrupting others. In
some people it is such an ingrained habit that they will not even know that they
are interrupting someone. I have been one of them and thankfully with practice,
I have been able to overcome this problem. You may even get a picture of the guy
who keeps interrupting you when you talk and gives off a know-it-all-attitude.
How I hate that type. Then again, there are different ways at looking at that.
First thing to know is to
Attitude, Not the Person.
Usually they are very well intentioned. I am not saying this just because I am one of them. There are two types,
They can give a perspective which others can’t. Dismissing them as a nuisance
would be incorrect. But then, not all interrupters fall into this category. That
why we have to learn to recognize the difference.
Important: Use situational judgment before using any of these techniques
1. Learn to recognize behavior of Inter-ruption in your self.
An Interrupt happens not only in talking but also to our thoughts and actions. Verbal interruptions are easy to realize. If you want to solve the core problem, try and realize all the different areas of life where you get interrupted by yourself. Some objects like mobile phone interrupt us and makes us go wild. I have had numerous instances when my mobile interrupted in the most inexcusable times (yes even in the lovely ones too)
2. Realize the Purpose/Reason behind the Interruptions
Interruptions are like messengers, they have a purpose and a message. Once you recognize at least three different areas in your own life where you suffer from unnecessary interruptions, begin to look for the possible reasons for these interruptions.
Apart from mechanical interruptions like mobiles you may have thought interruptions. These are very important. The best way to fight them is to focus on them. Our unconscious mind is very protective and if it thinks we are forgetting some thing. It will bring it to our consciousness by sending us signals which may be metaphorical or direct. Most of them originate from the depths of the powerful and protective unconscious mind.
Always respect these signals.
The more you respect your unconscious, the more
it will be helpful to you.
If you hate it, suppress it or get anxious over it, you are indicating distrust towards your unconscious. Stay away from doing something like that.
3. If You find yourself interrupting while others are talking.
It’s your unconscious trying to be helpful. It can also be your ego trying to take a shot to show its importance. The best way to solve this is to just laugh at your ego’s attempt for attention. Just laugh at it internally and also thank it for the message. Make a note of the message and deliver it to the group later.
4. Dealing with others inter-rupting you.
Well there are different ways you can handle it depending on the situation and context. These are some ways in which I have used to handle this problem.
Use caution while you use these techniques.
If I come across habitual die-hard interrupters, I ask them directly, "aren't
you going to inter-rupt me today?"
Another way is to let them know that they interrupt a lot and they can find a
solution to their problem by coming to this site and reading this page. You can
even print this page and give it to them if you want. Simple isn’t it?
You are achieving two objectives. You are telling them that you know that they are interrupting too often. That you care about them and you are willing to help. The least of all, you, will give me new visitors and encourage me to write more.