Handling Interruptions is one of the most invaluable tools you need
in your communication skills toolkit.
I believe that we should all find the best use for all behaviors and that; all
behaviors can be put to some kind of good use.
Let’s deal with handing interruption itself. Now, looking at the example of
interrupting others, you may feel it is a bad thing to have or own. One of the
useful beliefs held by great communicators is
Every behavior can be useful in some context.
Keeping this new belief in mind, let’s look at this behavior of interrupting in
a new light.
If you are so good at interrupting, how about interrupting your negative
thoughts?
How about interrupting self criticism?
That would be great way of handling
interruptions wouldn't it?
When you catch yourself giving one of those I-am-not-good-enough talks, How
about interrupting that talk?
Awesome isn't it?
Don’t you think this is a beautiful way of using one of the most natural
behaviors to suit our needs?
Harnessing this power is easy. One of the things you can try while handling
interruptions is to direct this so called bad behavior consciously to interrupt
those un resourceful mood swings at least 4/5 times for a few days. When you
interrupt yourself, make sure you direct you consciousness toward some thing
pleasant. It will then get on an auto pilot.
Imagine how wonderful it will be if you find yourself slipping into a bad mood
due to bad thoughts and suddenly, like a scheduled task, you find yourself
interrupting bad thoughts and filling it with good ones.
Amazing!! Go ahead and try it out.
And remember, send this to people having this problem and they will be very
grateful to you.
The most powerful way of using interruption is when you interrupt others falling
into a bad mood.
How to do this?
When you find some one slipping into any of those self abusive/self critical
spirals, the most common thing you do is to empathize or sympathize with them.
This tells me that you care and want to help that person.
So I will give you one of those well hidden techniques used by some of the
most powerful therapists in the world.
Handling Interruptions is a key
skills you need in the field of Persuasion.
It is very simple. When you find some one moving into the negative spiral, notice their behavior
just for a minute, and then you have to redirect their attention at least three
times by doing something unexpected.
Examples:
1. Ask them questions to answer which, they have to come back to the present.
2. Redirect their attention to some thing hanging above their head forcing
them to look up.
3. In a loud voice, make a stupid statement followed by a totally unrelated
question. Remember to raise your voice into a questioning mode at the end of the
question.
Ex: The monkey ate the dog’s banana. Why would the kangaroo fly?
Question must sound as if you are confused and make it so that they have to
respond to the question.
4. Make them do a physical task like chasing you!!!
Why all this and why at least three things?
At the cost of sounding totally stupid and unprofessional let me explain this.
My intention is to get you results by making you do these things. Not to be just
counted as one of those people who can write about things. So, if you think I am
a bit loony, it’s ok. Do these things and get the results.
A few more things to keep in mind:
1. Try to take them on a trip through all the three modes, pictures sounds and
feelings.
2. Do not declare that you intend to cure them. You are not curing them. You
are only helping them.
3. Keeping your skills a secret, is a good idea.
4. Utilize the current surroundings for maximum impact. Do not create a
clinical/artificial atmosphere.
So go out and see how powerful you can be when you know how
handling
Interruptions can boost your power and skills levels.
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