Effective Communication Skills
Effective communication skills will help
you become an a pleasure to your listeners. To understand effective communication, we need to first
realize the aim of any communication, be it a letter or a speech or
just a simple conversation. What is the main reason for
communicating with others? what do
you plan to achieve with this communication?
Why do you need it to be an effective communication in the first place?
Is it just to prove that you are better than others?
Is it just to seek approval from others? or to just show off ?
Once you have your ideas ready, Can you communicate without getting a
panic or anxiety attack?
These (or something similar) may be the
prime motives
for a communication. Let's say you have
already grounded the simple truth about Good Communication and you are better than before.
But you feel you can do better than that. You are able to develop your
speaking abilities but somehow it does not fit in right and you feel
uncomfortable. Why would that be? What else would it take to have an effective
communication skills?
Here is one of those Million Dollar principles that can boost up any skill
you want to Master
As long as it is not natural to you. As long as you are not congruent with what
you say, it will not be a powerful communication. the type which brings more and
more confidence to you. Most of the good material out there which talks about
being an effective communicator are missing an important principle. (Or to
reword, they are not emphasizing it enough).
Effective communication skills do not start with or end by telling about
the TOP 3 tricks and techniques
It only shows that the sellers of such stuff (as well as buyers) are lazy.
Self help of any kind, be it developing leadership skills or being a powerful
presenter or to develop effective communication skills, does not start
off.....Until you fix the inner game,
Until you know where you are and you feel comfortable with that, no amount of
techniques or exercises will help you!!!!
So internalize the first principle of being an Effective Communicator
Know where you stand and be comfortable with that.
When I started off, I saw all these great people exuding power just by their
presence. They did not have to use any words to command attention. Neither did
they change their body language, or have a condescending look. Their mere
presence made all the difference. Even though some of these people were not even well
recognized, their presence conveyed their power. The
effect of their
communication skills was quite visible.
On the other hand, I have seen many speakers in expensive seminars work the
crowd into hair pulling frenzy (in a bad way); even with good content, they were driving people
nuts with their talking style.
In the same breed you will see people who had gone to some fancy high price
workshop and end up being terrible speakers. This is largely due to the lack of
congruence in their speech. It just does not fit in right with the rest of them.
I have also been to some of these seminars. I would sit in the audience and
realize,
"Oops that it is so and so technique from so and so author or so and so trick
from so and so workshop.
Jee that didn't work!!. What shall I do?"
If you were in my place, you would have felt the frustration too! You can
avoid it all by using the principles and techniques in our website.
So here I was, with a lot of high price material and in front of my eyes were
examples of how it won't work. I was feeling guilty. I had all that I needed but
still I could not be an effective communicator and develop effective
communication skills.
The Second Rule of Effective Communication Skills:
As long as anything that you do is a technique or a trick, it is not going to
work 100%.
For that matter no technique will ever work 100% because deep down you know
it is not you and you know it is odd and not really your style. Your
subconscious will be sending out the " He is a fake!! He is a fake!!" signal to
your listeners or audience.
Proceed here for starter tips on
how to improve communication skills. One
more great way to develop
effective communication skills.
Communication Skills Training
Importance of Communication Skills
Improve Communication Skills
Good Communication Skills Communication Strategy
Interpersonal Communication
Treating Panic Attacks
Building Self Esteem
What to do next?
